Chapter 7. Mental Health is an Eternal Issue: Dealing with anxiety, insecurity, and less privilege.

There are so many questions about how to deal with anxiety, insecurity, etc, and there is a lot of answers and discussions about it already. But why I am always questioning to myself for what I should do to overcome mental health issues. I know it was a boring question, but this feeling is just a timeless matter which, for me, it wasn't easy task to deal with.

I have one friend who always be ready to be asked for sharing. Talking about mental health issue to other person is quite challenging task because I am not a person who easily delivered my thought, what I am feeling. But I guess sharing is healing too. I got new insight and I got healer too. So this post I just dedicated to my self personally, to remind me whatever and whenever I burnt out, everything seems to be simple to handle out. Hopefully this post also give you some insight as well.

Once, my friend said that human literally never get escaped from anxiety and its sisters. When we have anxiety, we just put a pressure to ourselves with something that has not happened yet. We already feel the negative symptoms of anxiety. We just afraid when something bad will happen in our life as we thought it. My friend said that dealing with those feelings is kinda an awareness of ourselves and our surroundings. Through mindfulness, we can try a little exercise like meditation, breath taking, and so on. 

Not all anxieties are bad for ourselves. It just depend on what kind of anxiety does affect us. In my life the worst anxiety is when I fail to fulfill and protect my closest community. It could be my family, my friends who supported me since beginning or it could be someone I just met. I am afraid to become someone who only give pressure to my surrounding. In fact, in my opinion, I should be the one who protect them. That is my anxiety problem. 

But do you know that anxiety, like other mental issues, is not stand individually, but it has a connection each other. If we have anxiety, for sure we have insecurity, seek an approval of others, privilege-issue, and so on. Mental issue always become an interesting fact that we all are experiencing right now. Unfortunately, there is lack of attention on it.

I have dealing with my insecurity in the past 6 years since my senior high school. The one that defeated me is my insecurity about physical appearance. Looks like I don't have any privilege on my appearance if compared to my friends that time. So far away. My insecurity does affect my mental health, that lead into my decision making process, and finally change my habit. I am trying to follow what my anxiety my insecurity says. I am trying to become other person just over night. I am trying to seek an approval and generality. 

Then, after I had some small chat with my friend, I got slapped. She told me something that really woke me up. That was the one which I ignored when talking about my insecurity, less privilege. Which is she said that there is no wrong at all about having mental issues such as insecurity, anxiety, or even feel less privilege. The important thing is just we need to accept whatever the feeling we have. We are angry, sad, or disappointed; just accept those feelings and let them in. never judge and self-diagnosed it by your subjective view. Mental health isn't an easy task to deal with. We are just trying what the best thing we can do for ourselves. In the case of mine, when we feel less privilege, just try to focus on what we have the most, what the thing that only ours. Focus on that part and try to maximize it. As simple as when we good at painting, don't force us to look that we aren't good at dancing if we don't. Trying to see that our ability to paint is the best part that exclusively given for us. Then, our task is to improve it step by step. Enhancing our other talents but not to do it in hurry while comparing it with others.

I know such big deal like this is eternal. We never get rid of these permanently. Mental issues always come whenever we are off guard. It is ok to have it. But we need to remember that we are the one who can control our response to it. What response you will give, will decide how far they take control over us. never let it happen.

Thanks for your attention guys. Feel free to discuss or sharing with me your thoughts or point of view. Don't be hesitate to acknowledge our mental issue. Greeting from me, best luck for us.